Comments on: 750 Words on Advice http://learntoduck.com/750words/advice/ sometimes it takes getting punched in the face Fri, 11 May 2012 20:10:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Sylvia http://learntoduck.com/750words/advice/comment-page-1/#comment-11274 Sylvia Sat, 01 Jan 2011 23:24:00 +0000 http://learntoduck.com/?p=1034#comment-11274 For a moment there I thought I was the only one having a hard time giving up in giving advice. Sometimes it just turns around and then I feel as though I'm slapped straight into the face....I was just trying to help...and I know that my friends and family members enjoy my advice...they actually seek for it, call me to tell me their problems, or just hint me a little so that I start asking questions, to then start giving them advice so that I can patch them up, to tell them what to do or not to do, or how to respond in such or such a situation...and they listen carefully...really, and then they thank me, saying that I was really helpful and then they're off....but as for me, afterwards, I feel beat, exhausted, pooped-out, and most of all frustrated because they didn't follow my advice...and then they're back for the same topic, a litllte modified, yet the same...ouf! I'm done with giving advice..I'll just smile...or say: "oh yeah? Hum...sorry to hear that...so what are you gonna do?". I'm done with giving advice! And if ever they ask me directly for a piece of advice, I'll keep it short, really short. I'm done with giving advice. Sylvia For a moment there I thought I was the only one having a hard time giving up in giving advice. Sometimes it just turns around and then I feel as though I’m slapped straight into the face….I was just trying to help…and I know that my friends and family members enjoy my advice…they actually seek for it, call me to tell me their problems, or just hint me a little so that I start asking questions, to then start giving them advice so that I can patch them up, to tell them what to do or not to do, or how to respond in such or such a situation…and they listen carefully…really, and then they thank me, saying that I was really helpful and then they’re off….but as for me, afterwards, I feel beat, exhausted, pooped-out, and most of all frustrated because they didn’t follow my advice…and then they’re back for the same topic, a litllte modified, yet the same…ouf!
I’m done with giving advice..I’ll just smile…or say: “oh yeah? Hum…sorry to hear that…so what are you gonna do?”.

I’m done with giving advice! And if ever they ask me directly for a piece of advice, I’ll keep it short, really short. I’m done with giving advice.

Sylvia

]]> By: Sylvia http://learntoduck.com/750words/advice/comment-page-1/#comment-11273 Sylvia Sat, 01 Jan 2011 23:24:00 +0000 http://learntoduck.com/?p=1034#comment-11273 For a moment there I thought I was the only one having a hard time giving up in giving advice. Sometimes it just turns around and then I feel as though I'm slapped straight into the face....I was just trying to help...and I know that my friends and family members enjoy my advice...they actually seek for it, call me to tell me their problems, or just hint me a little so that I start asking questions, to then start giving them advice so that I can patch them up, to tell them what to do or not to do, or how to respond in such or such a situation...and they listen carefully...really, and then they thank me, saying that I was really helpful and then they're off....but as for me, afterwards, I feel beat, exhausted, pooped-out, and most of all frustrated because they didn't follow my advice...and then they're back for the same topic, a litllte modified, yet the same...ouf! I'm done with giving advice..I'll just smile...or say: "oh yeah? Hum...sorry to hear that...so what are you gonna do?". I'm done with giving advice! And if ever they ask me directly for a piece of advice, I'll keep it short, really short. I'm done with giving advice. Sylvia For a moment there I thought I was the only one having a hard time giving up in giving advice. Sometimes it just turns around and then I feel as though I’m slapped straight into the face….I was just trying to help…and I know that my friends and family members enjoy my advice…they actually seek for it, call me to tell me their problems, or just hint me a little so that I start asking questions, to then start giving them advice so that I can patch them up, to tell them what to do or not to do, or how to respond in such or such a situation…and they listen carefully…really, and then they thank me, saying that I was really helpful and then they’re off….but as for me, afterwards, I feel beat, exhausted, pooped-out, and most of all frustrated because they didn’t follow my advice…and then they’re back for the same topic, a litllte modified, yet the same…ouf!
I’m done with giving advice..I’ll just smile…or say: “oh yeah? Hum…sorry to hear that…so what are you gonna do?”.

I’m done with giving advice! And if ever they ask me directly for a piece of advice, I’ll keep it short, really short. I’m done with giving advice.

Sylvia

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]]> By: micah http://learntoduck.com/750words/advice/comment-page-1/#comment-9603 micah Mon, 22 Feb 2010 05:20:23 +0000 http://learntoduck.com/?p=1034#comment-9603 Haha. That's why I stopped being a consultant years ago! Haha. That's why I stopped being a consultant years ago!

]]> By: Kathy http://learntoduck.com/750words/advice/comment-page-1/#comment-9602 Kathy Mon, 22 Feb 2010 05:11:23 +0000 http://learntoduck.com/?p=1034#comment-9602 Good luck with that one!! :) We who work as consultants, etc. LOVE to give advice and get so frustrated when no one is listening!! Good luck with that one!! :) We who work as consultants, etc. LOVE to give advice and get so frustrated when no one is listening!!

]]> By: New Product, Knowledge and Advice - The Advisor http://learntoduck.com/750words/advice/comment-page-1/#comment-9595 New Product, Knowledge and Advice - The Advisor Fri, 19 Feb 2010 16:18:15 +0000 http://learntoduck.com/?p=1034#comment-9595 [...] Micah writes about giving advice. This one is going to be hard for me to do (given the name of this blog) as I love to give advice [...] [...] Micah writes about giving advice. This one is going to be hard for me to do (given the name of this blog) as I love to give advice [...]

]]> By: Advice and more advice! « Rubber Tyres –> Smooth Rides http://learntoduck.com/750words/advice/comment-page-1/#comment-9571 Advice and more advice! « Rubber Tyres –> Smooth Rides Tue, 16 Feb 2010 14:12:03 +0000 http://learntoduck.com/?p=1034#comment-9571 [...] 750 Words on Advice (learntoduck.com) [...] [...] 750 Words on Advice (learntoduck.com) [...]

]]> By: Micah http://learntoduck.com/750words/advice/comment-page-1/#comment-9539 Micah Mon, 08 Feb 2010 23:39:33 +0000 http://learntoduck.com/?p=1034#comment-9539 I think the line appears when its professional and personal. At some point, your friends just want you to listen, right? I think the line appears when its professional and personal. At some point, your friends just want you to listen, right?

]]> By: Amber Rae Lambke http://learntoduck.com/750words/advice/comment-page-1/#comment-9538 Amber Rae Lambke Mon, 08 Feb 2010 09:11:44 +0000 http://learntoduck.com/?p=1034#comment-9538 Don't stop giving advice!!! You like giving advice because you like solving problems, helping people and you have solid perspective. Your intentions are good! Your friends know this. You likely tell people things they might not want to realize or aren't ready for... but we need people like you in the world! Don't stop giving advice!!! You like giving advice because you like solving problems, helping people and you have solid perspective. Your intentions are good! Your friends know this. You likely tell people things they might not want to realize or aren't ready for… but we need people like you in the world!

]]> By: bknotts http://learntoduck.com/750words/advice/comment-page-1/#comment-9536 bknotts Sun, 07 Feb 2010 00:22:06 +0000 http://learntoduck.com/?p=1034#comment-9536 It's okay to wait for people to ask you for advice first, but I'd "advise" you to answer the question that needs to be answered, which isn't always the one asked.<br><br>For instance, I've asked all of my developer friends for the past 6 months if they could recommend any developers for full-time hires to help us get our startup off the ground. Finally, one of them recommended a development firm (which is not what I asked for) and BOOM, we're finally getting the work that needed to be done, done. It's okay to wait for people to ask you for advice first, but I'd “advise” you to answer the question that needs to be answered, which isn't always the one asked.

For instance, I've asked all of my developer friends for the past 6 months if they could recommend any developers for full-time hires to help us get our startup off the ground. Finally, one of them recommended a development firm (which is not what I asked for) and BOOM, we're finally getting the work that needed to be done, done.

]]> By: Brian Wynne Williams http://learntoduck.com/750words/advice/comment-page-1/#comment-9535 Brian Wynne Williams Sat, 06 Feb 2010 22:17:42 +0000 http://learntoduck.com/?p=1034#comment-9535 Reminds me of discussions I've had with my wife. When she wants to vent, I'm always trying to solve the problem (with advice). She has to remind me that she doesn't want me to tell her how to solve the problem (often there isn't one) she just wants me to listen. I'm working on it ... ;-)<br><br>I'm the same in business -- always happy to give advice because I love helping to solve problems. Like you, though, I'm trying not to give it unless it's asked for.<br><br>This is a good reminder for advice-seekers. They shouldn't wait for others to share advice. Don't be afraid to ask for it. Reminds me of discussions I've had with my wife. When she wants to vent, I'm always trying to solve the problem (with advice). She has to remind me that she doesn't want me to tell her how to solve the problem (often there isn't one) she just wants me to listen. I'm working on it … ;-)

I'm the same in business — always happy to give advice because I love helping to solve problems. Like you, though, I'm trying not to give it unless it's asked for.

This is a good reminder for advice-seekers. They shouldn't wait for others to share advice. Don't be afraid to ask for it.

]]> By: geechee_girl http://learntoduck.com/750words/advice/comment-page-1/#comment-9534 geechee_girl Sat, 06 Feb 2010 21:58:59 +0000 http://learntoduck.com/?p=1034#comment-9534 You can give me advice any time :) I like advice - from certain people, not just anyone - but you are on the certain people list. You can give me advice any time :) I like advice – from certain people, not just anyone – but you are on the certain people list.

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