Comments on: Hate, Fear and Misunderstanding http://learntoduck.com/micah/hate-fear-and-misunderstanding/ sometimes it takes getting punched in the face Fri, 18 May 2012 02:31:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: ChangeForge | Ken Stewart http://learntoduck.com/micah/hate-fear-and-misunderstanding/comment-page-1/#comment-9187 ChangeForge | Ken Stewart Sat, 10 Jan 2009 00:36:29 +0000 http://learntoduck.com/?p=534#comment-9187 Micah, great observations yet again. I have been rolling some of these concepts around in my head, and even recently posted something a little 1984-ish on LG's website about whether we were too connected... I wonder whether the web is a place to conduct "plastic surgery" on the cheap to our persona, but I cannot deny it is a wonderful place to "meet" people and have great conversations. While I know the relationships via online only are usually not substantial, but this medium is a wonderful primer to learn about someone from the inside out - at least if they are being genuine... Once these so-called relationships extend out into meatspace, a lot of the artificial barriers we might have erected during the initial introductions can be sidestepped, in effect. Who knows, maybe that's why online dating services work so well (or do they)? Dunno, but this was a good read nonetheless. Micah, great observations yet again. I have been rolling some of these concepts around in my head, and even recently posted something a little 1984-ish on LG's website about whether we were too connected… I wonder whether the web is a place to conduct “plastic surgery” on the cheap to our persona, but I cannot deny it is a wonderful place to “meet” people and have great conversations. While I know the relationships via online only are usually not substantial, but this medium is a wonderful primer to learn about someone from the inside out – at least if they are being genuine… Once these so-called relationships extend out into meatspace, a lot of the artificial barriers we might have erected during the initial introductions can be sidestepped, in effect. Who knows, maybe that's why online dating services work so well (or do they)? Dunno, but this was a good read nonetheless.

]]> By: micah http://learntoduck.com/micah/hate-fear-and-misunderstanding/comment-page-1/#comment-9188 micah Sat, 10 Jan 2009 00:05:47 +0000 http://learntoduck.com/?p=534#comment-9188 I really need to write my piece for Louis. Im really slipping in that <br>regard. I do think that online gives you the ability to test <br>relationships prior to engaging in them.... I really need to write my piece for Louis. Im really slipping in that
regard. I do think that online gives you the ability to test
relationships prior to engaging in them….

]]> By: ChangeForge | Ken Stewart http://learntoduck.com/micah/hate-fear-and-misunderstanding/comment-page-1/#comment-8323 ChangeForge | Ken Stewart Fri, 09 Jan 2009 16:36:29 +0000 http://learntoduck.com/?p=534#comment-8323 Micah, great observations yet again. I have been rolling some of these concepts around in my head, and even recently posted something a little 1984-ish on LG's website about whether we were too connected... I wonder whether the web is a place to conduct "plastic surgery" on the cheap to our persona, but I cannot deny it is a wonderful place to "meet" people and have great conversations. While I know the relationships via online only are usually not substantial, but this medium is a wonderful primer to learn about someone from the inside out - at least if they are being genuine... Once these so-called relationships extend out into meatspace, a lot of the artificial barriers we might have erected during the initial introductions can be sidestepped, in effect. Who knows, maybe that's why online dating services work so well (or do they)? Dunno, but this was a good read nonetheless. Micah, great observations yet again. I have been rolling some of these concepts around in my head, and even recently posted something a little 1984-ish on LG's website about whether we were too connected… I wonder whether the web is a place to conduct “plastic surgery” on the cheap to our persona, but I cannot deny it is a wonderful place to “meet” people and have great conversations. While I know the relationships via online only are usually not substantial, but this medium is a wonderful primer to learn about someone from the inside out – at least if they are being genuine… Once these so-called relationships extend out into meatspace, a lot of the artificial barriers we might have erected during the initial introductions can be sidestepped, in effect. Who knows, maybe that's why online dating services work so well (or do they)? Dunno, but this was a good read nonetheless.

]]> By: micah http://learntoduck.com/micah/hate-fear-and-misunderstanding/comment-page-1/#comment-8324 micah Fri, 09 Jan 2009 16:05:47 +0000 http://learntoduck.com/?p=534#comment-8324 I really need to write my piece for Louis. Im really slipping in that <br>regard. I do think that online gives you the ability to test <br>relationships prior to engaging in them.... I really need to write my piece for Louis. Im really slipping in that
regard. I do think that online gives you the ability to test
relationships prior to engaging in them….

]]> By: paul merrill http://learntoduck.com/micah/hate-fear-and-misunderstanding/comment-page-1/#comment-8322 paul merrill Thu, 08 Jan 2009 01:26:49 +0000 http://learntoduck.com/?p=534#comment-8322 Great reminder to avoid those stereotypes.<br><br>Underneath the outside - that's what counts. Great reminder to avoid those stereotypes.

Underneath the outside – that's what counts.

]]> By: Miragi http://learntoduck.com/micah/hate-fear-and-misunderstanding/comment-page-1/#comment-8321 Miragi Wed, 07 Jan 2009 22:43:23 +0000 http://learntoduck.com/?p=534#comment-8321 I don't think there is ANYONE online who isn't in some way behaving (speaking) differently than they do in person. Me, included. Online is where I get to practice being the outgoing, personable, loveable person that I just can't seem to be in person. I'm invisible in public, or at best, just in peoples' way. Of course, I'm sure the negative 10 foot aura that I exude probably doesn't help that either, but still. Hell, I don't even know myself half the time, at least when it comes to my perception of me. The me I see in the mirror and the me in my head are completely and entirely different than the me in pictures, the good shots and the bad ones. I'm working on it. Always. <br><br>Great thoughts. Thanks! I don't think there is ANYONE online who isn't in some way behaving (speaking) differently than they do in person. Me, included. Online is where I get to practice being the outgoing, personable, loveable person that I just can't seem to be in person. I'm invisible in public, or at best, just in peoples' way. Of course, I'm sure the negative 10 foot aura that I exude probably doesn't help that either, but still. Hell, I don't even know myself half the time, at least when it comes to my perception of me. The me I see in the mirror and the me in my head are completely and entirely different than the me in pictures, the good shots and the bad ones. I'm working on it. Always.

Great thoughts. Thanks!

]]> By: Nancy Compton http://learntoduck.com/micah/hate-fear-and-misunderstanding/comment-page-1/#comment-8320 Nancy Compton Wed, 07 Jan 2009 22:32:59 +0000 http://learntoduck.com/?p=534#comment-8320 Micah - Thanks for one again writing openly about something personal to you. I have a close friend that is 'technically' obese. I don't see her that way. Instead see a dear friend that I love very much who is witty, talented, well read, kind, way smarter than the average bear and funny as hell. It always surprises me when she is discriminated against. It is usually in subtle ways like being shown to a crappy table in a restaurant when lots of primo tables are available. Worse is when people look through her. Frankly, it sucks. We as a country have made alot of progress in the area of discrimination. We need to make process on this one too. Thanks for giving me the place to say that. Micah – Thanks for one again writing openly about something personal to you. I have a close friend that is 'technically' obese. I don't see her that way. Instead see a dear friend that I love very much who is witty, talented, well read, kind, way smarter than the average bear and funny as hell. It always surprises me when she is discriminated against. It is usually in subtle ways like being shown to a crappy table in a restaurant when lots of primo tables are available. Worse is when people look through her. Frankly, it sucks. We as a country have made alot of progress in the area of discrimination. We need to make process on this one too. Thanks for giving me the place to say that.

]]> By: Sean Bohan http://learntoduck.com/micah/hate-fear-and-misunderstanding/comment-page-1/#comment-8319 Sean Bohan Wed, 07 Jan 2009 22:29:02 +0000 http://learntoduck.com/?p=534#comment-8319 in little ways, these fears and misconceptions about a person can possibly be minimized by these interactions online. <br><br>we get to "know" others by their ideas, posts, Qik vids, thoughts, writings and interactions in these social spaces. Sure we add our own biases and nonsense to these interactions too, but maybe the same disconnect that lets nice, cool people turn into trolls when they get in front of a keyboard. We never met before Gnomedex this year, but I got to "know" Micah in little ways, between tweets and blog posts and emails on a certain unnamed list (the douchebag thing is still hysterical to me). <br><br>Maybe we can have _context_ about people in the same way we have context about statements, situations, ideas, concepts. Context isn't the content, but it is an appreciation.<br><br>this is a great post - thanks for sharing it in little ways, these fears and misconceptions about a person can possibly be minimized by these interactions online.

we get to “know” others by their ideas, posts, Qik vids, thoughts, writings and interactions in these social spaces. Sure we add our own biases and nonsense to these interactions too, but maybe the same disconnect that lets nice, cool people turn into trolls when they get in front of a keyboard. We never met before Gnomedex this year, but I got to “know” Micah in little ways, between tweets and blog posts and emails on a certain unnamed list (the douchebag thing is still hysterical to me).

Maybe we can have _context_ about people in the same way we have context about statements, situations, ideas, concepts. Context isn't the content, but it is an appreciation.

this is a great post – thanks for sharing it

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