Last week, I wrote about personal change. The change I was attempting to enact was one of understanding the grey areas in things.

Interesting effort, not done by any stretch.

Damn, its hard.

I live in a world of absolutes. Its easier for me. I know that something, someone can be or not be. But to question that fundamental belief is like turning an ocean liner (that would be hard).

But, Im working on it.

There something interesting that I have learned in my attempts to see, understand and accept the grey areas of life. That true patience, the kind that one accepts, makes it so much easier.

Here is an example. Right now, there is a situation in my life that I want to be one way. I know, absolutely, that it should be, and will be (one day), that way. I know this like I know that oxygen is important to life.

Fundamentally.

And, usually, in situations like this, I make it just the way I want it by sheer force of will. I just make it so. I see the problems and fix them. I understand the difficulties and remove them. I just make it so.

In this case, I cant. All I can do is be patient. Patient without expectation, but with hope.

Fundamentally.

So, what I have learned is that to accept the grey areas of life, one must be patient and restrained. And not in a way of just not doing something, or avoiding interaction, but by accepting that not everyone thinks as you do, and you must let them come to their own conclusions.

So to understand the grey, one much be patient and restrained, yet available and compassionate.

Damn, thats hard.

But, if and when it works, and the personal situation or business deal (yes, this fits with my giving without expectation concept), it will create the type of relationship that has no grey areas for either party.

Damn, thats good. Really good.

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